Perhaps it has nothing to do with having some concept of being spiritual that opens us more deeply to loving each other. Perhaps eventually it is a need for all of us to experiencing the pure act of aligning ourselves with love for all, and yes that is the person that may have behaved in a hurtful manner to us (where the real inner work for us resides) that opens us up to a true form of spirituality that is not depended of any religious or spiritual model.